Is Closure Necessary before Dating again after a Breakup?

Some people believe that you can never really move forward after a breakup until you have closure on the old relationship. I believe that closure means many different things to many different people. Some people never achieve real closure on a relationship but move on to have many successful relationships along the way.

But, is closure, achieving that moment of nirvana where you wish only the best for your ex and accept the fact that he/she is moving on with a life without you in it, necessary to dating someone new?

Dating v. Relationships

Dating is one thing. You don't have to have any type of closure in order to date again. Dating is something that requires no commitment of emotion. It's a trial run so to speak.

Relationships on the other hand are a little more intense. They require a heftier investment. It's difficult to build a relationship with someone when another person holds your heart, your hopes, and your Dreams.

The problem with failing to get closure is that you haven't yet taken those things back from the one that got away. Until you own your own heart, hopes, and Dreams once again it will be difficult to achieve any real and lasting love with someone new.

The Real Bummer

The real bummer in all of this is that it doesn't matter how wonderful and loveable the new person in your life may be. Until you've put the old relationship to rest any new relationship is doomed before it really begins.

Your best bet is to try to put things off until you've reached that magical moment with your ex when you're ready to move on and face a life without your ex in it. Until you're prepared to do that you're not ready for a relationship.

That doesn't mean that you can't begin dating though. In fact, some people find that dating again is what gives them the strength to take back their hearts, hopes, and dreams and own them once again.

Taking Back your Heart

The bottom line is this: while closure is not necessary for dating after a breakup it is pretty much a requirement for building any type of lasting relationship. If your goal is to have a long and lasting relationship with someone new you need to do a little housekeeping with your heart before you get in too deep.

Taking back your heart may be one of the most frightening things you'll ever do. If it puts you one step closer to happily ever after with the right person though it is worth all the risks.

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